G\u00f6z\u00fc d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f delikanl\u0131, sevdi\u011fini sand\u0131\u011f\u0131 gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n evinin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki binan\u0131n duvar\u0131na \u201cYa benimsin, ya kara topra\u011f\u0131n!\u201d diye yaz\u0131yor kocaman harflerle. Y\u00fcre\u011findeki, beynindeki batakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015fk san\u0131yor besbelli. B\u00f6ylece niyetini, ki\u015fili\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a sergiliyor c\u00fcmle aleme! Belli ki beynindeki, y\u00fcre\u011findeki cehennemi a\u015fk san\u0131yor! <\/p>\n
Beynindeki, y\u00fcre\u011findeki cehennem mi delikanl\u0131n\u0131n? Ba\u015fka ne olabilir ki? Sevgi denilen, a\u015fk denilen duygu, sevilenin iyili\u011fini, mutlulu\u011funu, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc, huzurunu, g\u00fcvenli\u011fini, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dilemeyi gerektirmez mi? Sevdi\u011finiz insan sizinle birlikte olmak, hayat\u0131n\u0131 sizinkiyle birle\u015ftirmek istemiyorsa, ba\u015fka biriyle mutlu olaca\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131yorsa onun bu se\u00e7imine sayg\u0131 duymak, onu mutlulu\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcrece\u011fine inand\u0131\u011f\u0131 yoldan \u00e7evirmeye kalk\u0131\u015fmak, \u00fcstelik bunu \u00f6l\u00fcm tehdidiyle yapmaya yeltenmek ger\u00e7ek bir sevginin \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc olabilir mi? Bir kad\u0131n\u0131 ille de kendisiyle ya\u015famaya mecbur etmek, mahkum etmek insana, insanl\u0131\u011fa yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r m\u0131? Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir insan\u0131n sevdi\u011fine k\u0131ymas\u0131 olacak i\u015f mi? De\u011fil elbet. Ne var ki toplumumuzda \u00e7ok rastlanan bir durum bu: G\u00fcn ge\u00e7miyor ki medyada \u201cArkada\u015fl\u0131k teklifini reddeden k\u0131z\u0131 b\u0131\u00e7aklayarak \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc.\u201d, \u201cKendisinden bo\u015fanmak isteyen e\u015fini sokak ortas\u0131nda kur\u015funlad\u0131.\u201d, \u201cNamusunu temizlemek i\u00e7in kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 hastanede \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc.\u201d t\u00fcr\u00fcnden haberler yer almas\u0131n. Erkekli\u011fin bu yolla ispatlanmaya kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131nda d\u00fcnyada ilk s\u0131ray\u0131 al\u0131yorsak \u015fa\u015f\u0131lmaz do\u011frusu.<\/p>\n
Bu t\u00fcr cinayetlerin failleri, genellikle yapt\u0131klar\u0131yla \u00f6v\u00fcn\u00fcr, kendilerini daha bir erkekle\u015fmi\u015f hissederler. \u00c7evrelerinden takdir beklerler. \u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc, dost ve akraba \u00e7evrelerinde, cezaevi ko\u011fu\u015flar\u0131nda takdirle kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131klar\u0131, adeta kahraman say\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 da olur \u00e7o\u011fu kez\u2026<\/p>\n
Reddedildikleri i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131na d\u00f6nen, \u015fiddete ba\u015fvurarak, ka\u00e7\u0131rarak, tecav\u00fcz ederek istediklerini elde etmeye kalk\u0131\u015fan, hatta tabancaya, b\u0131\u00e7a\u011fa sar\u0131larak can almaktan \u00e7ekinmeyen katilleri yak\u0131ndan inceledi\u011fimizde \u00e7o\u011fu kez reddedilmekten ku\u015fkuya d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fckleri erkekliklerini kan\u0131tlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ya da yine bu eksiklik duygusundan kaynaklanan ruhsal \u00e7\u0131kmazlar\u0131n\u0131n sonucu olarak cinayete soyunduklar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Kimi erkekleri bu bata\u011fa s\u00fcr\u00fckleyen nedenler aras\u0131nda ku\u015fku yok ki e\u011fitim de \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir etkendir. Yaz\u0131k ki toplumu \u015fekillendiren \u00f6rg\u00fcn, yayg\u0131n ve dinsel e\u011fitim kurumlar\u0131nda, er e\u011fitim merkezlerinde insanlar aras\u0131 e\u015fitlik, kad\u0131n \u2013 erkek e\u015fitli\u011fi, insan haklar\u0131na sayg\u0131 gibi konular yeterince ele al\u0131nmamaktad\u0131r. B\u00f6ylece sokak k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnce \u015fekillendirilmeye \u00e7ok a\u00e7\u0131k kalan kimi erkeklerin kad\u0131nlarca bir \u015fekilde reddedildikleri anda silaha sar\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayan ortam yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olmaktad\u0131r. Bu olumsuzlukta ba\u015fta devlet, \u00f6rg\u00fcn, yayg\u0131n ve askeri e\u011fitim kurumlar\u0131, en b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne kadar medya, sivil toplum \u00f6rg\u00fctleri ve tek tek her birimiz olmak \u00fczere, her kurumun, her kurulu\u015fun, her ki\u015finin a\u011f\u0131r pay\u0131 ve sorumlulu\u011fu vard\u0131r. E\u011fitim konusunda yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken, erkeklerimizi kendilerini kad\u0131n\u0131n sahibi ve efendisi g\u00f6rmekten, kad\u0131n\u0131 sadece cinsel tatmin arac\u0131 olarak kullan\u0131lmak i\u00e7in var olmu\u015f olarak alg\u0131lamak zavall\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kurtaracak bir bilgi, ahlak ve k\u00fclt\u00fcr e\u011fitimini el ve g\u00fc\u00e7 birli\u011fiyle ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmektir. Sa\u011fl\u0131k alan\u0131nda ise, insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ruh sa\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n incelenmesi ve bu hastal\u0131klardan korunmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in gerekli \u00f6nlemlerin al\u0131nmas\u0131 herkesin sorumluluk y\u00fcklenmesi gereken bir zorunluluktur. <\/p>\n
Unutmayal\u0131m ki yurdumuzda her g\u00fcn birka\u00e7 kad\u0131n, kendilerini sahipleri ya da namus bek\u00e7ileri sanan erkekler taraf\u0131ndan katlediliyor ve bu insanlar\u0131n kan\u0131, katliama seyirci kalan herkesin, her kurumun, her politikac\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcne bula\u015f\u0131yor. Unutmayal\u0131m ki bu cinayetler s\u00fcr\u00fcp gittik\u00e7e bu cinayetlere seyirci kalan s\u00f6zde b\u00fcy\u00fcklere tuttu\u011fumuz alk\u0131\u015flar onlar\u0131 da kendimizi de a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamaktan ba\u015fka sonu\u00e7 vermiyor\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
G\u00f6z\u00fc d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f delikanl\u0131, sevdi\u011fini sand\u0131\u011f\u0131 gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n evinin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki binan\u0131n duvar\u0131na \u201cYa benimsin, ya kara topra\u011f\u0131n!\u201d diye yaz\u0131yor kocaman harflerle. Y\u00fcre\u011findeki, beynindeki batakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015fk san\u0131yor besbelli. B\u00f6ylece niyetini, ki\u015fili\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a sergiliyor c\u00fcmle aleme! Belli ki beynindeki, y\u00fcre\u011findeki cehennemi a\u015fk san\u0131yor! Beynindeki, y\u00fcre\u011findeki cehennem mi delikanl\u0131n\u0131n? Ba\u015fka ne olabilir ki? Sevgi denilen, a\u015fk denilen duygu, sevilenin […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1092"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1092"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1092\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1093,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1092\/revisions\/1093"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1092"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1092"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1092"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}