Koskoca\u00a0 adamlar ana babalar\u0131n\u0131n, e\u015flerinin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n, torunlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde “Hay anas\u0131n\u0131\u00a0 s.kti\u011fimin falancas\u0131… ” diye ba\u015fl\u0131yor s\u00f6ze! Sonra her c\u00fcmlenin ba\u015f\u0131nda, ortas\u0131nda, sonunda tekrarlay\u0131p s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcyor muhabbetini (!).\u00a0 Ne kadar \u00e7irkin, ne kadar korkun\u00e7! Ne kadar ay\u0131p, Ne kadar utan\u00e7\u00a0 verici!<\/p>\n
Ama kimsenin y\u00fcz\u00fc k\u0131zarm\u0131yor. Utanman\u0131n u’su bile yok ortamda…\u00a0 Sonraki konu\u015fmac\u0131 da ayn\u0131 minval \u00fczere s\u00f6verek kat\u0131l\u0131yor muhabbete ve bu b\u00f6ylece s\u00fcr\u00fcp gidiyor. Evde sofra ba\u015f\u0131nda, meydanda, kahvehanede, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, bayramda, okulda, otob\u00fcste, trende, tramvayda da b\u00f6yle.<\/p>\n
S\u00f6verek konu\u015fanlar uyar\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131nda\u00a0 genellikle bozulmuyorlar. “Kalbimizde k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck yok be abi; al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f\u0131z bir kere; hem s\u00f6verek konu\u015fan sadece ben miyim, herkes s\u00f6v\u00fcyor; baksana devletin b\u00fcy\u00fcklerine! Onlar bile \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fck, s\u00fcrt\u00fck, ahlaks\u0131z, namussuz, gibi \u00e7irkin s\u00f6zleri hem de hedef g\u00f6zeterek\u00a0 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorlar. muhaliflerine.” deyip kapat\u0131yorlar konuyu.<\/p>\n
Zaman zaman toplumu b\u00f6ylesi konularda uyarmas\u0131 beklenebilecek ki\u015filerle tart\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum bu sorunu. \u00d6rne\u011fin \u00f6\u011fretmenlerle, imamlarla, kanaat \u00f6nderleriye, a\u011fz\u0131 laf edenlerle.\u00a0 “\u00c7ok hakl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.” deyip b\u0131rak\u0131yorlar. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n bu olumsuz yanlar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fczeltilmesinden sorumlu saym\u0131yorlar kendilerini.<\/p>\n
D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum da insanlar\u0131n olumlu yanlar\u0131n\u0131\u00a0 \u00a0y\u00fczlerine \u00f6vg\u00fcyle s\u00f6ylemeyi beceriyoruz ama olumsuz yanlar\u0131n\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131yoruz gibi. Oysa kusurlar\u0131m\u0131z oldu\u011funda dostlar\u0131m\u0131zca uyar\u0131lmazsak yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l d\u00fczeltece\u011fiz? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hi\u00e7 kimse davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, \u00e7irkinlik, haks\u0131zl\u0131k, olumsuzluk yaratmak amac\u0131yla sergilemez.\u00a0 Biz de herkes gibi hakl\u0131l\u0131k,\u00a0 do\u011fruluk, uygunluk inanc\u0131yla davran\u0131r\u0131z.\u00a0 Ancak dostlar\u0131m\u0131zca uyar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda\u00a0 ay\u0131b\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00fcn bayram. Ne g\u00fczel. Ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir g\u00fcn\u00fc. Bayramlar s\u00fcr\u00fcp gitmiyor, bitiyor; ama ya\u015fam s\u00fcr\u00fcyor. G\u00f6n\u00fcl ister ki hi\u00e7 de\u011filse bayram g\u00fcnlerinde s\u00f6vmelere, kabal\u0131klara, \u00e7irkinliklere tan\u0131k olmayal\u0131m.\u00a0 Herkes temiz, g\u00fcle\u00e7, kibar, sayg\u0131l\u0131, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc… olsun.<\/p>\n
Bunu yapabiliriz. \u0130stersek pekala yapabiliriz.<\/p>\n
D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn bir kere: b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kararl\u0131l\u0131kla yeni bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imine ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f\u0131z bayram g\u00fcn\u00fcnde. Art\u0131k sofram\u0131zda, b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizin, e\u015fimizin ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerimizin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda s\u00f6vmekten, \u00e7irkin s\u00f6zlerden ve d\u00fc\u015fmanca\u00a0 s\u00f6ylemlerden kesinlikle ka\u00e7\u0131nma karar\u0131 vermi\u015fiz. Bu karar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sokakta, \u00e7ar\u015f\u0131da, pazarda, dostlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z insanlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda da hep uygulayaca\u011f\u0131z. S\u00f6z; s\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc tutamazsak kendimize sayg\u0131m\u0131z kalmayacak.<\/p>\n
S\u00f6z m\u00fc?<\/p>\n
“S\u00f6z!” diyorsan\u0131z ne mutlu size. \u00d6n\u00fcn\u00fczde kendinize ve \u00e7evrenizdeki t\u00fcm insanlara sayg\u0131l\u0131 bir ya\u015fam var. Art\u0131k size kimse biraz i\u011frenerek bakmayacak.<\/p>\n
Biraz abartt\u0131m m\u0131?\u00a0 \u00c7ok zor bir \u015fey mi \u00f6nerdim size? Yapamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir \u015fey mi\u00a0 istedim?\u00a0 Bence pekala yapabilirsiniz. Ba\u015farabilirsiniz. Yeter ki s\u00f6verek, k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zler s\u00f6yleyerek konu\u015fman\u0131n size hi\u00e7 mi hi\u00e7 yak\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul edin. B\u0131rak\u0131n bunu kendisine yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131ranlar s\u00f6vmeyi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrs\u00fcn. Siz onlardan uzak durun. Ba\u015far\u0131rsan\u0131z size her g\u00fcn bayram.<\/p>\n
Bayram\u0131n\u0131z kutlu olsun…\u00a0 21.04.2023 BANDIRMA<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Koskoca\u00a0 adamlar ana babalar\u0131n\u0131n, e\u015flerinin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n, torunlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde “Hay anas\u0131n\u0131\u00a0 s.kti\u011fimin falancas\u0131… ” diye ba\u015fl\u0131yor s\u00f6ze! Sonra her c\u00fcmlenin ba\u015f\u0131nda, ortas\u0131nda, sonunda tekrarlay\u0131p s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcyor muhabbetini (!).\u00a0 Ne kadar \u00e7irkin, ne kadar korkun\u00e7! Ne kadar ay\u0131p, Ne kadar utan\u00e7\u00a0 verici! Ama kimsenin y\u00fcz\u00fc k\u0131zarm\u0131yor. Utanman\u0131n u’su bile yok ortamda…\u00a0 Sonraki konu\u015fmac\u0131 da ayn\u0131 minval \u00fczere s\u00f6verek […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1425"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1425"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1425\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1426,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1425\/revisions\/1426"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1425"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1425"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1425"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}