G\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131zda \u00e7evremizdeki insanlarla ileti\u015fimde bulunur, onlara sorular sorar, yan\u0131tlar\u0131ndan yararlan\u0131r; onlar\u0131n sorular\u0131n\u0131 yan\u0131tlayarak kendilerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. \u0130nsanlardan ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan \u015feylere ula\u015fmam\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmalar\u0131n\u0131 ister ya da ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131 \u015feylere ula\u015fmalar\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 oluruz. B\u00f6ylece birbirimizin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r, aram\u0131zda bir yak\u0131nl\u0131k, bir dostluk kurar\u0131z. Bu geli\u015fme i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131z\u0131n ho\u015fnutlukla dolmas\u0131na neden olur. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin bize g\u00f6sterdikleri yak\u0131nl\u0131ktan do\u011fan bu ho\u015fnutlu\u011fun bedelini i\u00e7imizden gelen bir te\u015fekk\u00fcrle \u00f6deriz.<\/p>\n
Bu te\u015fekk\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin de yapt\u0131klar\u0131 \u015feylerle bizi mutlu ettiklerini anlamalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar, sevindirir.<\/p>\n
Te\u015fekk\u00fcr\u00fc hak eden insanlar sosyal ya\u015famlar\u0131nda olumlu, do\u011fru ad\u0131mlar atmakta olduklar\u0131n\u0131n bilincine var\u0131rlar. Bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 yaln\u0131zca onlar\u0131 ve bizi olumlu etkilemekle kalmaz; toplumun da geli\u015fmesini, iki ki\u015finin daha olumlu davranan kitleye kat\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n yapt\u0131klar\u0131 yard\u0131mlarla birilerinin mutlulu\u011funu sa\u011flad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 fark etmelerinin sa\u011flanmas\u0131 herkes i\u00e7in bir insanl\u0131k g\u00f6revidir.<\/p>\n
Bizler bunu elbet biliriz. Ne var ki a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 yorgunluklardan, tela\u015flardan, kafa kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan dolay\u0131 kimi zaman kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki kimselerin o kibar davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n bize ne kadar olumlu katk\u0131larda bulundu\u011funun fark\u0131na varamaz ve onlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan do\u011fan derin te\u015fekk\u00fcr bor\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fena halde unutur, \u00f6demeden \u00e7ekip gideriz. Dalg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ilginin, yard\u0131m\u0131n, deste\u011fin fark\u0131na varmam\u0131z\u0131 engellemi\u015f olur. Dalg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz yard\u0131m\u0131 da, yard\u0131m edeni de, te\u015fekk\u00fcr borcunu fark etmemizi de engelleyebilir. B\u00f6ylesi durumlarda dalg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131r varmaz te\u015fekk\u00fcr borcumuzu \u00f6demek ve dalg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan dolay\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek insanl\u0131k borcumuzdur.<\/p>\n
Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek ve \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek elbet birilerinden ille de maddi yard\u0131m g\u00f6rmenin, bir \u00e7\u0131kar sa\u011flaman\u0131n ya da birilerine zarar vermenin bedeli de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n
Sosyal ili\u015fkilerimizde i\u015f yerlerinde, marketlerde, toplu ta\u015f\u0131ma ara\u00e7lar\u0131nda,
\nhastanelerde, caddelerde ve benzeri topluma a\u00e7\u0131k yerlerde her ya\u015ftan, her ba\u015ftan, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fcrl\u00fc, g\u00f6rg\u00fcl\u00fc, g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fcz v. b. insanla bir arada bulunabiliriz. B\u00f6ylesi yerlerde kap\u0131 giri\u015f ve \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f noktalar\u0131nda, al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f tezgahlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde, orada g\u00f6r\u00fclecek i\u015flerin t\u00fcm\u00fcnde \u00f6ncelikli olmak isteriz. Bunu isteyen yaln\u0131z biz miyiz? Yok can\u0131m; hepimiz ayn\u0131 a\u011fac\u0131n meyveleriyiz; benciliz. Marazi bencilli\u011fimiz bizi de hep en \u00f6nde bulunmaya zorlar. Bu bencillik zaaf\u0131n\u0131 hissetmek de\u011fil, onu bast\u0131r\u0131p do\u011fru davranmakt\u0131r \u00f6nemli olan. \u0130\u00e7imizdeki bu ezeli karga\u015fan\u0131n biricik \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yolu g\u00f6rg\u00fc ve erdem e\u011fitimidir. Kim bilir, belki bir g\u00fcn b\u00f6yle bir konu da okullar\u0131m\u0131zdaki zorunlu dersler aras\u0131na al\u0131n\u0131r…<\/p>\n
Neyse biz b\u0131rakal\u0131m e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretim programlar\u0131n\u0131 da s\u0131k\u0131\u015f tepi\u015f y\u0131\u011f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z kap\u0131lar\u0131n, tezgahlar\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde, vicdan\u0131m\u0131z kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inden kimlerin giri\u015fte, \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fta, oturup kalkmada, hizmet almada bakal\u0131m\u00a0 bize g\u00f6re \u00f6ncelikli olmas\u0131n\u0131 uygun g\u00f6recek.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fumuz kalabal\u0131ktaki di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n durumlar\u0131na g\u00f6re \u00f6ncelik s\u0131ram\u0131z\u0131 belirlememiz uygun olur; b\u00f6yle durumlarda kap\u0131 \u00f6n\u00fcnde yan yana durdu\u011fumuz ya\u015fl\u0131, rahats\u0131z, bizden k\u0131demli kimselere ve her ya\u015ftaki han\u0131m efendilere \u00f6ncelik tan\u0131mam\u0131z, bize \u00f6ncelik tan\u0131yanlara te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmemiz, marketlerdeki al\u0131\u015fveri\u015flerde de ayn\u0131 nezaket kurallar\u0131na uymam\u0131z gerekir.<\/p>\n
Kalabal\u0131k yerlerde y\u00fcksek sesle konu\u015fmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmam\u0131z, sesimizi bir an y\u00fckseltmek zorunda kalm\u0131\u015fsak \u00e7evredekilerden \u00f6z\u00fcr dilememiz do\u011fru olur..
\nBu ve benzeri nezaket kurallar\u0131na uymak tek tek b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlara ve toplumlara sayg\u0131 borcumuzdur. Bu, insani g\u00f6revimizdir.<\/p>\n
Gerekti\u011finde, bize kar\u015f\u0131 insanca davranan b\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015filere ve topluluklara te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek, bir \u015fekilde rahats\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131na neden oldu\u011fumuz bireylerden ve topluluklardan mazeretimizi de a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirterek \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeliyiz.<\/p>\n
Kusurlar\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek bireyleri asla k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmez.<\/p>\n
Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla hak edenlere te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmenin ve bir kusur i\u015flendi\u011finde \u00e7evresindekilerden \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemenin hi\u00e7 de zor olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. B\u00f6yle davran\u0131rsak, o \u00e7ok korktu\u011fumuz d\u0131\u015flanmaya u\u011framaz, toplumca say\u0131lan ve sevilenler aras\u0131nda yer alabiliriz.<\/p>\n
\u00d6z\u00fcr ve te\u015fekk\u00fcr, akl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131nda insanlar i\u00e7in gerekti\u011finde kolayca ve i\u00e7tenlikle s\u00f6ylenebilen s\u00f6zlerdir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
G\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131zda \u00e7evremizdeki insanlarla ileti\u015fimde bulunur, onlara sorular sorar, yan\u0131tlar\u0131ndan yararlan\u0131r; onlar\u0131n sorular\u0131n\u0131 yan\u0131tlayarak kendilerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. \u0130nsanlardan ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan \u015feylere ula\u015fmam\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmalar\u0131n\u0131 ister ya da ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131 \u015feylere ula\u015fmalar\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 oluruz. B\u00f6ylece birbirimizin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r, aram\u0131zda bir yak\u0131nl\u0131k, bir dostluk kurar\u0131z. Bu geli\u015fme i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131z\u0131n ho\u015fnutlukla dolmas\u0131na neden olur. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin bize g\u00f6sterdikleri […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1758"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1758"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1758\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1785,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1758\/revisions\/1785"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1758"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1758"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1758"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}