SEVG\u0130S\u0130ZL\u0130K: \u0130NSANLIK SU\u00c7U !
\nPsikologlar, psikiyatristler pek \u00e7ok sonrunlu insan\u0131 incelemi\u015f, ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar yapm\u0131\u015f, sonu\u00e7 olarak psikopatinin temelinde sevgisizlik, ilgisizlik, itilip kak\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, g\u00f6rmezden gelinmi\u015flik, yok say\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, taciz ve tecav\u00fcze u\u011fram\u0131\u015fl\u0131k gibi, insanlar\u0131n daha \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flarda u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131 olumsuzluklardan kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 saptam\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
S\u00f6z konusu ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar g\u00f6stermi\u015ftir ki, insan, daha d\u00fcnyaya geldi\u011fi andan itibaren annesinin, ebesinin, ninesinin ve \u00e7evresindeki t\u00fcm insanlar\u0131n ilgi, sevgi ve korumas\u0131na derin bir gereksinim duymaktad\u0131r. \u0130lk nefesini ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00a0ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 nefesteki oksijenin ci\u011ferlerini \u00a0yakmas\u0131ndan do\u011fan ac\u0131yla ilk \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 atmas\u0131 sonucunda g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ilgi ve yard\u0131m sonunda ya\u015famsal bir ders al\u0131r bebek: Can\u0131n yan\u0131yorsa a\u011fla; a\u011flaman \u00e7evredekilerce duyulur ve ac\u0131n\u0131 dindirmek i\u00e7in sana gerekli yard\u0131m yap\u0131l\u0131r! Bu, ilk derstir. Bebek ac\u0131k\u0131r, gaz\u0131 olur, pi\u015fik can\u0131n\u0131 yakar\u2026 \u00a0Bunlar a\u011flamayla \u00e7evreye, do\u011fal olarak anneye ve yak\u0131nlara duyurulur; a\u011flaman\u0131n sonucu hep istenilen, beklenilen yard\u0131md\u0131r. A\u011flamaya kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k bebe\u011fin bekledi\u011fi yard\u0131m\u0131 almas\u0131, onun ya\u015fam\u0131nda ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk dersi \u00a0peki\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n
\u0130kinci ders, bebe\u011fi insan olmaya y\u00f6nelten \u00f6nemli bir ad\u0131md\u0131r. Bundan sonra o, \u00e7evresinde bir a\u011flama, bir \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k duydu\u011funda a\u011flayan\u0131n can\u0131n\u0131n yand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, \u00e7evresinden yard\u0131m bekledi\u011fini anlar. E\u011fer \u00e7evreden gelen \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k, a\u011flama devam ederse, bebek, bundan kendi ac\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlar ve a\u011flamakta olana yard\u0131m edilmedi\u011fin sonucuna var\u0131r; durum b\u00f6ylece s\u00fcrerse, o da a\u011flamaya ba\u015flar. Kendi annesine a\u011flayan bebe\u011fi g\u00f6sterip ona yard\u0131m edilmesi gerekti\u011fini anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte bu, insanla\u015fmaya do\u011fru at\u0131lan ilk ad\u0131md\u0131r; EMPAT\u0130\u2019dir.<\/p>\n
Empati, do\u011fumu izleyen ilk dersin \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcd\u00fcr; ancak ailece, sosyal \u00e7evrece ve e\u011fitim sistemince bilin\u00e7le geli\u015ftirilmesi gerekir. Aile, sosyal \u00e7evre ve e\u011fitim sistemi bunu geli\u015ftirecek bilin\u00e7li ad\u0131mlar\u0131 atmazsa, bebe\u011fin do\u011fdu\u011funda ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk ders unutulur gider; ailenin ve \u00e7evrenin, giderek insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ac\u0131 \u00e7ekenlere yard\u0131m etmedi\u011fi, etmeyece\u011fi yeni ve \u00e7ok tehlikeli bir ders olarak bebe\u011fin bilincine yerle\u015fir: O bu dersle insanlar\u0131n birbirlerine sahip \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131klar\u0131, sorun her ne olursa olsun, insanlardan yard\u0131m istenmemesi, beklenmemesi gerekti\u011fi kanaatine var\u0131r; a\u011flay\u0131p s\u0131zlanmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r, kendi ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7aresine bakmaktan ba\u015fka yol bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 sonucuna var\u0131r. Bundan sonra ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011flay\u0131p s\u0131zlanmas\u0131, \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar atmas\u0131 da onun i\u00e7in g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcden ba\u015fka bir anlam ta\u015f\u0131maz olur\u2026<\/p>\n
K\u0131saca, yukar\u0131da anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z nedenlerle \u00a0\u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve t\u00fcm \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00a0iyi birer insan olarak yeti\u015ftirebilmek i\u00e7in bize d\u00fc\u015fen g\u00f6rev onlar\u0131n bizden bekledikleri ilgi, sevgi, varl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131nda olmam\u0131z, \u00a0saymam\u0131z, kendilerini g\u00fcvenilir, de\u011ferli birer insan, geli\u015fmeye aday birer varl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz yolundaki beklentilerini en iyi bi\u00e7imde \u00a0kar\u015f\u0131lamakt\u0131r. Onlar\u0131n beklentilerini \u00a0en olgun, en doyurucu ve inand\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bi\u00e7imde kar\u015f\u0131lamaz, onlara ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131n ve ba\u015fka canl\u0131lar\u0131n beden dillerini \u00f6\u011fretip onlar\u0131n \u00e7ekmekte olduklar\u0131 a\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n, susuzlu\u011fun, korkunun, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131n\u0131n, beklentilerinin fark\u0131na varmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretemezsek yaln\u0131z onlara de\u011fil, t\u00fcm insanl\u0131\u011fa, t\u00fcm canl\u0131 ve cans\u0131z varl\u0131klara zarar vermi\u015f oluruz.<\/p>\n
Sevgiden ve ilgiden, fark\u0131na var\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131ktan, \u00f6nemsenmekten, \u015fefkatten yoksun b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in ba\u015fta kendilerine de olmak \u00fczere t\u00fcm varl\u0131klara, t\u00fcm insanl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fc\u015fman olan, o yok say\u0131lanlar\u0131n, itilip kak\u0131lm\u0131\u015flar\u0131n \u00a0i\u015fledikleri \u00a0su\u00e7lar onlardan \u00f6nce bizim su\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z, bizim ay\u0131plar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu su\u00e7lardan, bu ay\u0131plardan kurtulman\u0131n bir tek yolu vard\u0131r: Ba\u015fta kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z olmak \u00fczere t\u00fcm \u00e7ocuklara sevgi, sayg\u0131 ve ilgi g\u00f6stermek, geli\u015fmeleri i\u00e7in elimizden gelen her \u015feyi yapmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu, \u00e7ok \u00a0zor bir i\u015f midir?
\nREMZ\u0130 KISA – BANDIRMA – 18-01-2019<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
SEVG\u0130S\u0130ZL\u0130K: \u0130NSANLIK SU\u00c7U ! Psikologlar, psikiyatristler pek \u00e7ok sonrunlu insan\u0131 incelemi\u015f, ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar yapm\u0131\u015f, sonu\u00e7 olarak psikopatinin temelinde sevgisizlik, ilgisizlik, itilip kak\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, g\u00f6rmezden gelinmi\u015flik, yok say\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, taciz ve tecav\u00fcze u\u011fram\u0131\u015fl\u0131k gibi, insanlar\u0131n daha \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flarda u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131 olumsuzluklardan kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 saptam\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. S\u00f6z konusu ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar g\u00f6stermi\u015ftir ki, insan, daha d\u00fcnyaya geldi\u011fi andan itibaren annesinin, ebesinin, ninesinin ve […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/855"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=855"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/855\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":857,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/855\/revisions\/857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=855"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=855"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=855"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}