\u0130nsanlar\u0131n yar\u0131s\u0131 a\u00e7l\u0131ktan, yar\u0131s\u0131 sevgisizlikten \u00f6l\u00fcr diyor bir ruhbilimci. \u00c7evremize dikkatlice bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bunu kolayca g\u00f6rebiliyoruz. Kalabal\u0131klar\u0131n ortas\u0131nda ne \u00e7ok insan var ki bir g\u00fcnayd\u0131n, nas\u0131ls\u0131n diyenleri, y\u00fczlerine i\u00e7tenlikle g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyenleri yok. Ne aile bireyleri fark\u0131nda onlar\u0131n ne ayn\u0131 okulda birlikte bulunduklar\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmen ve \u00f6\u011frenciler ne ayn\u0131 masada \u00e7ay i\u00e7tikleri kahvehane m\u00fc\u015fterileri ne ayn\u0131 at\u00f6lyede birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 i\u015f\u00e7iler, i\u015fverenler ne sokakta i\u00e7lerinde y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fckleri kalabal\u0131klar. Kimse umursam\u0131yor onlar\u0131, kimse varl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131nda de\u011fil sanki\u2026 D\u00fcped\u00fcz yok say\u0131l\u0131yorlar. T\u0131pk\u0131 orta\u00e7a\u011fda kiliselerce aforoz edilmi\u015f zavall\u0131lar gibiler. Oysa haklar\u0131nda verilmi\u015f aforoz h\u00fck\u00fcmleri yok\u2026 Ne kendileri biliyorlar yok say\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131n nedenini ne de yok sayanlar. Bir fiili durum, bir fiili zul\u00fcm s\u00fcr\u00fcp gidiyor i\u015fte\u2026 sevilmediklerini, istenmediklerini, \u00f6nemsenmediklerini alg\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131 her nefeste yeniden, yeniden \u00f6l\u00fcyorlar.<\/p>\n
\u0130nsanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n tarih boyunca bulabildi\u011fi en a\u011f\u0131r i\u015fkence y\u00f6ntemi aforoz. Aforoz edilenle hi\u00e7 kimse konu\u015famaz, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015femez. Aforoz edilen ya\u015fam boyu d\u0131\u015flan\u0131r, g\u00f6rmezden gelinir, yok say\u0131l\u0131r. Aforoz edilenle ileti\u015fim kurmaya kalk\u0131\u015fan\u0131n cezas\u0131 da aforoz edilmektir. Aforoz cezas\u0131, g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde tecrit ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda ancak en a\u011f\u0131r su\u00e7lar\u0131 i\u015flemi\u015f en uslanmaz h\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fclerin k\u0131sa bir s\u00fcreli\u011fine darac\u0131k tecrit odalar\u0131na kapat\u0131l\u0131p kimseyle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesine imkan tan\u0131madan, tek ba\u015flar\u0131na tutulmas\u0131 \u015feklinde \u00e7ok basitle\u015ftirilmi\u015f, hafifletilmi\u015f olarak uygulan- maktad\u0131r. Buna ra\u011fmen h\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fcler, fiziksel i\u015fkencelerden bile daha \u00e7ok korkarlar tecritten. <\/p>\n
Aforoz yaln\u0131z orta\u00e7a\u011fda, tecrit odalar\u0131 yaln\u0131z cezaevlerinde mi? \u00d6yle olsayd\u0131 e\u011fer, evlerimizde, meydanlarda, okullarda, i\u015fyerlerinde so\u011fuk sava\u015flar ya\u015fan\u0131r m\u0131yd\u0131? \u0130nsanlar d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k duygusu i\u00e7inde, sevgisizlik bata\u011f\u0131nda bo\u011fulup giderler miydi hi\u00e7? \u0130tip kakarak, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layarak, yaln\u0131zca kusurlar\u0131n\u0131, yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcp y\u00fcz\u00fcne vurarak, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyerek,
\ns\u00f6v\u00fcp d\u00f6verek, s\u00fcrekli utand\u0131rarak, g\u00f6rmezden gelerek, yok sayarak de\u011fersizlik, istenmezlik, sevilmezlik duygusuna bo\u011fdu\u011fumuz e\u015flerimiz, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z, karde\u015flerimiz, annelerimiz, babalar\u0131m\u0131z, yak\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z varl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 bize ve \u00e7evreye hissettirmek i\u00e7in \u00e7aresizce, umutsuzca fakat sessizce \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar atarlar, atarlar, atarlar m\u0131yd\u0131 hi\u00e7?<\/p>\n
Beden diliyle at\u0131l\u0131r sessiz \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar; evden ka\u00e7\u0131p gitmelerle, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131yla, garip k\u0131l\u0131klarla, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 makyajlarla, bo\u011fucu parf\u00fcmlerle, kabaday\u0131l\u0131kla, yapmac\u0131k \u015fuhluklarla, gereksiz g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fc pat\u0131rt\u0131yla, g\u00f6steri\u015fe ka\u00e7an davran\u0131\u015flarla\u2026 at\u0131l\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fumuz edepsizlik, terbiyesizlik, sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k, sald\u0131rganl\u0131k olarak alg\u0131lar\u0131z sessiz \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131. Rahats\u0131z oluruz. Bu \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klara anlay\u0131\u015fla, sevgiyle yakla\u015fmak, bu sessiz \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131 atanlar\u0131n var olduklar\u0131n\u0131, de\u011ferli olduklar\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, onlar\u0131 yok sayanlar\u0131n yan\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc hissettirmek yerine kolayc\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 se\u00e7eriz: Onlar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelmeye, yok saymaya, yanlar\u0131ndan uzakla\u015fmaya ya da d\u00fcped\u00fcz kovmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. Oysa ama\u00e7lar\u0131 bizi rahats\u0131z etmek de\u011fildir onlar\u0131n. Tek istekleri dikkatimizi \u00fczerlerine \u00e7ekmek, var olduklar\u0131n\u0131, insan olduklar\u0131n\u0131, de\u011ferli olduklar\u0131n\u0131\u2026 g\u00f6rmemizi sa\u011flamakt\u0131r. Bundan ba\u015fka ama\u00e7lar\u0131 yoktur sessiz \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar atanlar\u0131n. <\/p>\n
\u00c7ok \u015fey mi istiyor bu insanlar? Bizim isteklerimizden farkl\u0131 m\u0131 istekleri, beklentileri? Biz de var say\u0131lmak, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6rmek, takdir edilmek, sevilmek\u2026 istemiyor muyuz? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130nsanlar\u0131n yar\u0131s\u0131 a\u00e7l\u0131ktan, yar\u0131s\u0131 sevgisizlikten \u00f6l\u00fcr diyor bir ruhbilimci. \u00c7evremize dikkatlice bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bunu kolayca g\u00f6rebiliyoruz. Kalabal\u0131klar\u0131n ortas\u0131nda ne \u00e7ok insan var ki bir g\u00fcnayd\u0131n, nas\u0131ls\u0131n diyenleri, y\u00fczlerine i\u00e7tenlikle g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyenleri yok. Ne aile bireyleri fark\u0131nda onlar\u0131n ne ayn\u0131 okulda birlikte bulunduklar\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmen ve \u00f6\u011frenciler ne ayn\u0131 masada \u00e7ay i\u00e7tikleri kahvehane m\u00fc\u015fterileri ne ayn\u0131 at\u00f6lyede birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/979"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=979"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/979\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":980,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/979\/revisions\/980"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=979"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=979"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kocapinarnotlarim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=979"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}